Suggested changes:
edit fastcgi-php to run less cgi processes e.g.
nano /etc/lighttpd/conf-enabled/15-fastcgi-php.conf
and change
"PHP_FCGI_CHILDREN" => "2",
(from 4 child processes)
also change
nano /etc/php/7.3/cgi/php.ini
and set
memory_limit = 64M
(instead of 128M)
That should do it